Living YOUR DREAM is about moving in sync with your own reality.

So when you learn to accept and celebrate your reality (on both the light side AND the dark side), then you will essentially get whatever you ‘wish’ for. But for now, you can wish all your want for things and think positively about things but in the end you will only get those things if they are what you truly wanted…meaning (1) You are running to something, not from something and (2) It was something you wanted on your own resolve and nobody elses. Why do you want to go to a certain school? To impress someone? To get approval from a family member or friend? If those are the underlying reasons…your essay tells your story. It shows your insecurity and lack of substance even if you are a great writer and get professionally coached on how to do it.

So say you love a specific school and you obsessed over going there. Chances are you knew that long before you reached your last years of high school. You read or heard a story and you had some paradigm shift in your life. So you started studying- not to get into that school but you studied things about the people who got accepted into that school. You became a little bit obsessed in fact when its healthy we call that being passionate about something. If it is not healthy, you obviously have issues and should seek professional help You would look for patterns about those people who got accepted; what their graduates were known for; what kinds of things they did (philanthropic, social, academic). And you would ask yourself- do I fit into that profile? If no, then you would be done and move on with it. If yes and truly yes, then you would start actively seeking out ‘creative’ and ‘non traditional’ ways to bring those experiences into your life and because you were actively doing things to make that happen and you truly loved it, then other things would begin to manifest and that is essentially “The Secret”. The more intensely focused on that moment or that thing, the more affirmations and ‘signs’ you will begin to see around you (that were most likely already there) and the more willing people will be to help you. Everyone you meet will seem as if they have a story about someone they knew who went there or were somehow associated with that school. You will have all the AHA moments.

Ironically, many of those things and opportunities exist in your life now, it’s just that people often fail to embrace and nurture their reality and as you well know, folks simply don’t have follow through. And that’s why things seldom work out at the time you want them to….no matter how much you hope or think positively. In the end the universe will work out things, but not always at the time you hope or expect. Humble yourself…and learn to be grateful. In time everything you wish for and more will come and in abundance.

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We can have an ultimate goal in mind, and that is good, it can be an amazingly difficult or astronomical goal (I personally think the more outrageous the better) but coupled with that goal, we must also have a plan of action to achieve that goal.

In this process we might have many steps and those can be very unclear, but you should have a ‘next action’. look at what you can do now to get you closer to that goal. Then do that, then figure out what after that you need to after that, and so on.

What I can’t stand about ‘the secret’ is that it seems to promote a lack of action. All of these great people in history, their secret wasn’t that they had positive attitudes and told the universe to give it to them, it was that they worked their tails off, getting ready for it to happen, to make it happen, and then all of the sudden they got lucky, right? no they spent their time preparing themselves to be lucky, but doing all the work that is required to get there.

I am glad someone said it